The holiday season can be a time for celebration and connection, but for some, it can usher in a new wave of stressors. Between shopping, hosting, traveling, traditions, and a myriad of other commitments, it can be easy to find yourself overwhelmed. For many people, this time of year features an increase in financial insecurity, challenging family dynamics, loneliness or grief, time constraints, and changes in routine. While these challenges may feel insurmountable, there are some tips and tools that can help alleviate some of the holiday stress.
Set boundaries
Setting boundaries may feel uncomfortable at first. However, it is important to understand what you have the space for, and what can take a back seat. For example, you may feel tempted or even pressured to say yes to every invitation, but it is ok to say no! This time of the year is packed with events and commitments, but don’t forget downtime is important too. Saying no is good self-care!
Speaking of setting boundaries, it is probably a good idea to consider where this needs to be done with family members. Challenging family dynamics play a huge role in holiday stress, especially when managing different expectations and traditions. Be clear in your communication with others regarding what you can or cannot commit to for the holidays. It is okay to walk away from conversations that are no longer healthy. Limiting time spent with certain challenging friends or family members can be helpful, too.
You aren’t off the hook! Setting good boundaries with yourself is important, too. Often, people feel pressure to create the “perfect” holidays, from decorating to gift-giving. Social media can amplify feelings of inadequacy by showcasing idealized holiday moments—especially the decor! Please know that most of us don’t live the way social media influencers do. It is literally their job to showcase an unattainable lifestyle. Go at your own pace, do what you can afford to do comfortably, and remember that the holidays are more about being connected than anything else! Taking breaks from social media can be helpful this time of year.
Budget wisely
Financial planning during this time of the year is extremely difficult for most of us. Buying gifts, hosting meals, and traveling can strain budgets. Reminder: you do not need to go into debt to give your family a good holiday experience. Thoughtful gifts, rather than expensive ones, are always a good way to go. Set a realistic budget and stick to it! There are plenty of resources in your community that can help with gift giving as well. Consider meaningful, low-cost alternatives like handmade gifts, baking treats, or offering acts of service.
Plan ahead, but stay flexible
Creating a plan for the holidays can help you stay organized and reduce the last-minute frenzied feeling. You can start by making lists for gifts, meals, and events. Prioritize tasks and set deadlines to avoid a time crunch. However, remember to stay flexible! Unplanned situations are inevitable, and it is ok to adjust your plans as needed.
Make time for self-care
Amid the hustle and bustle, try to carve out moments for yourself. Whether it is a quiet morning with coffee, a brisk walk, or a relaxing bath, self-care is essential. Curating a calming or upbeat playlist to combat various mood shifts can be helpful. Engaging in any religious or spiritual practices this time of the year can always help us refocus our energy and mindfulness. Try your best to maintain your routines and rituals. Part of self-care is delegating and sharing responsibilities. You don’t have to do everything yourself! Delegate tasks and involve kids in age-appropriate responsibilities. Sharing responsibilities lightens your load and helps you feel more connected to others.
Understand that increase in grief or loneliness is normal
Some of us experience an extra helping of grief or loneliness this time of the year. For those of us who have lost loved ones or are far from family, the holidays can highlight sadness or isolation. There are ways to navigate this difficult time while honoring your emotions and finding moments of peace. Remember to acknowledge your feelings and allow yourself to grieve. It is ok to feel sad, lonely and upset. Suppressing emotions often makes it harder, so be gentle with yourself. If old traditions feel too painful, consider starting new ones that bring comfort or meaning. Focus on gratitude, as finding even small things to be thankful for can shift your perspective. Remember: it’s OK to find joy!
There are a variety of challenges that come with this time of year. Perhaps you are working on the holiday and being away from your family is hard! Understanding these stressors can help people prepare for the holiday season with realistic expectations and strategies to reduce overwhelm. With some of the tools and tips highlighted above, we hope you can find a way to remain healthy and get through the busy holiday season in a meaningful way. Don’t hesitate to reach out to friends, family members, coworkers, or professionals for support.
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