These days we are flooded with information about politics, partisan conflicts and disagreements. Facts, figures and opinions concerning local, national and international issues can easily engulf us and our children.
More in Common, a non-profit organization, asked a group of American parents across the political spectrum how they talk to their children about politics. Most parents shared that they do not talk to their children under seven about political or social issues because they feel their children are too young to understand. Only about half of parents with children seven or older reported talking to their children about such issues.
Research suggests that children as young as three years of age understand the concept of the common good and that there are adults who help to make rules for our country.
As challenging as it is to have these conversations about social concerns, there are some basics that may be helpful for parents and caregivers to consider.
Sort out your own feelings and passions before talking with your children
The single most important factor in how your child reacts is your reaction to events. How you handle your feelings will STRONGLY impact how your child processes the world. It is not only what you say, but how you say it. Remain calm, reassuring and accepting.
Invite and listen to your child’s questions and concerns
Before you process with your child, listen to what she understands and learn what she wants to know. Does your child know the difference between fact and opinion? Suggest ways your child can use reliable sources of information and learn to fact check. Invite your child to bring questions to you for further discussion. Remember, especially for very young children, too much information can be confusing and scary.
Know your facts
Children may need help understanding words like democracy, congress, immigration, laws, executive orders, NATO, or tariffs. Your discussion may present some teaching moments: Where is the Middle East? Where is Ukraine? What is the Supreme Court? Who is Congress? What do they do? Think of your child’s developmental level when speaking with him.
Let your child know that he is safe
Younger kids will require more assurance. Older children will usually benefit from facts and processing time. If you watch TV or stream, do it together. Limit your child’s exposure to violence and traumatic information. For older children, limit screen time and direct them to reputable sites. Invite questions, research together, and signal that no topic is off limits.
Keep your family’s schedule and routine
We all draw comfort from the usual at times of the unusual. Use personal sources of strength for support. Family traditions, beliefs, religious practices—stay close to friends, neighbors, teachers, clergy.
If your child regresses, this could be quite normal—sleeping with parents, not wanting to do school work, clinging to you or comfort toys, bed wetting, changes in appetite, significant mood shifts. If your child has a significant decline in their functioning or persistent regression, contact your pediatrician or family practice provider, or contact your local mental health provider. Remember children most likely to be affected by conflict or uncertainty are special needs children and those who have had prior traumatic events in their lives.
For more tips on helping children grow well, visit the Grow section of the Be Well blog.
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